Who Is Responsible for Cheating?

Is it common in relationships for one or both parties to seek companionship outside of the relationship? I'm always bewildered to learn or hear that someone has deceived another person in a relationship. It's often times aired all over the news about celebrities getting caught with other people that are not their spouses. It's even common in relationships that are not so publicized. When flipping through the channels, I'm always drawn to television programs that focus and highlight relationships Russianbrides.com Reviews that have gone awry because someone was not honest in the relationship. It is uncanny that that these types of programs capture my attention because I'm the first person to not condemn those types of television programs. But somehow I'm amazed and watch them anyways.

 

In a recent conversation with an acquaintance, I was told that "a man will lie, cheat, steal and kill for the pleasure of a woman." Morris was very successful in the music industry many years ago. He was an average height and average looking man, but had power and money. Morris was married with children. However, one of his biggest and detrimental faults that still haunt him today was cheating on his wife. In his statement above, he confessed that he never killed for the pleasure of a woman, whew; however, when it came to cheating, he would lie to get out of being caught. Russianbrides "I couldn't help it. Women were literally throwing themselves at me." In his confession, Morris did state that several times he did lie to other women that he wasn't married, when indeed he was married. But other times, women pursued a relationship with him even knowing he was married. Okay, here's where I started thinking, which is to blame? This question is threefold. Is it the one cheating, the one being cheated on or the one knowingly engaged in cheating with?

 

Morris obviously didn't learn from his first marriage that cheating would abruptly end his family. Morris wanted to stay with his wife, but he also wanted to have extramarital relationships. He thought the two were mutually inclusive. Morris' wife got fed up with is cheating antics and filed for divorce. Years later, Morris got married again, however this time, his wife cheated on him and he filed for divorce. Karma caught up Russianbrides.com  to Morris. He eventually learned his lesson not to chase women because he'd wasted a lot of time and money and could have done something constructive with his time like writing songs.

 

Cheating negatively affects more and more relationships. There are several television shows dedicated to real life stories of people cheating and getting caught. I've always wondered how one can air their dirty laundry for the whole world to see, or most of the world. As mentioned, I find myself intensely drawn to these programs, especially when traveling and in hotel rooms. Also, I'm always astonished when a high profile celebrity get caught cheating. Really! Did you not think that you would get caught especially being under constant media scrutiny? However, what's mostly common with couples is the devastation on faces when learned that the other person has or had been unfaithful. The majority of relationships typically end; however, very few actually survive.

 

When I was much younger, in my early twenties, I was engaged to a wonderful guy, so I thought. After two years of dating and living together for about six months, I learned that he was cheating. I was heading home for lunch one day and as I was driving into my complex, I saw him leaving with another woman in the car. I blew my horn to acknowledge that I indeed saw him and I continued home. I was mortified, bewildered and practically numb. He turned around and came back home to find me in tears. I assumed his mistress was still in the car. He embraced me and apologized profusely. I explained that I needed some time and left to go back to work. I'm not sure what happened that day, but I found myself on an airplane heading to New York to spend time with my favorite cousin. A week later, I returned home, he actually picked me up from the airport. In less than a week, I had moved everything I owned out of our apartment and rented a townhouse nearby. We became good friends, but, the trust was forever gone.

 

Carol had been in a relationship with Braden for several years. She thought she was in love and that Braden was her soul mate. Braden had been married for more than twenty years and had been seeing Carol for three of those years. Carol refrained from dating other men and spent her days waiting for the time she'd spent with Braden. Three years of waiting and hoping that Braden would get a divorce, Carol finally realized that she was holding on to a relationship that wasn't going anywhere. She stopped seeing Braden, which was one of the hardest decisions she'd made in her life. Many months of tears, pain and indecisiveness, she held out from contacting Braden and receiving calls, texts and e-mails from him. Carol held out and eventually met a man that was single. She's found a new love and is blissfully happy.

 

Dana had been happily married for several years and they had a beautiful daughter. Her husband couldn't find work in his line of profession where they lived and was offered a job in another state. Dana's husband moved to a different state to pursue his career and to care for his family. Dana stayed behind, continued to work and take care of their daughter. Dana began seeing a very successful business man and engaged in an extramarital affair. She was reaping the rewards of having a successful businessman treat her to all the pleasures money could afford and also having a husband that would take care of the household expenses as well as drop in from time to time. Dana was living a life of luxury, until her affair caught up with her. Dana lost her husband through a divorce, her daughter and the life of luxury she was living.

 

Jennie's husband was in the military and was knowingly cheating on her. The first time Jennie caught him, when he came home, he was in a house with a woman. When he came out of the house Jennie tried to run him over. What made it worse; she was pregnant with his child. The second time Jennie caught him, he was backing out of her driveway and she approached the car. He pushed Jennie back and she continued holding on to the car as he was backing away. She stayed married to him but wanted to get back at her husband. She started seeing someone who she worked with. He was also married. "I felt safe seeing another married man" Jennie said. "I had all the intention on divorcing my husband." However, because he was a drinker, he got into an altercation and his life was taken. The person that Jennie was cheating with wife found out and her life was threatened. Jennie immediately stopped seeing the person she was having an affair with, in fear of her life.

 

One last intriguing and stunning story that caught me completely by surprise was of an acquaintance of mine. Sharon and I were working on a project and the conversation of cheating ensued. Sharon is in her eighth year of marriage and has a six year old son. When asked about her marriage, a different and solemn expression engulfed Sharon's face. I quickly dismissed her expression. Yet another time, minutes later, the conversation of her husband was presented again. She had the same expresson and this time I questioned Sharon. "Are you happily married?" I asked. Sometimes it is just better not to open Pandora's Box. Two hours later, I learned that Sharon has been in a long distance relationship with a suitor for the past eight months. She visits him at least two times per month. Sharon's marriage has been such a failure, full of degrading conversations and her husband saying hurtful things that has completely separated her mentally from her husband. I asked if she'd considered counseling and/ or divorce and Sharon said that she had discussed divorce with her husband; but, he said he didn't want one. No physically involved with her husband for over a year, Sharon found love outside her marriage that is satisfying emotionally and physically. Actually, during our conversation, he had called her at least three times. Sharon's husband has no clue that she is actively involved in a relationship.